Neither. I picked an instance that is defederated from it. It wasn’t at first and it was mixed into everything.

You want me to figure your life out for you or is this a passive aggressive thing?

Two of the top ten largest instances… something like a good 10-20% of Lemmy users are full on fascists with a hard on for making other people’s lives miserable. You being ignorant of it doesn’t make it untrue.

1. it’s a form of victim blaming. Example:

“I went to India and I was sexually assaulted on a bus.” “THATS YOUR FAULT FOR NOT GOING TO THE ‘GOOD’ PARTS.”

No. Fuck you. India has a rampant sexual assault problem.

Lemmy has rampant problems. To ignore them and say it’s the visitors fault is such a fucking asshole position to take. If the first time you came to lemmy was when csam was being spammed and you were subjected to it… it 100% isn’t your fault. If you make a comment on something that interests you from All and you don’t see which community it is in and you get spammed with slurs and attacks for having a different opinion… it’s not your fault.

2. it’s toxic as fuck and super passive aggressive.

“You don’t know how to curate your experience. You aren’t very good at it. You must have issues.”

That’s what people are saying. They hide behind the bullshit example you gave “what’s wrong with selecting your interests.” No. Fuck you.

Hexbear and lemmygrad. Hexbear is one of the largest lemmy instances and it’s a pit.

Because it is? The term used to mean someone who is honest and upfront about things but toxic assholes co-opted the term as a way to excuse bad behavior.

It’s used infrequently enough that it’s not as obvious, but it’s a huge red flag for someone to say “I’m a straight shooter”.

It’s throughout many of the comments on this post.

They are demonstrating the reddit post first hand.

Step 1) be toxic and mock people for the choices they make.

Step 2) act superior

Step 3) passive aggressively victim blame

Straight shooters is a wiggle word to say asshole who doesn’t care about others feelings.

To the people who say they don’t run into jerks here or they don’t understand when people say it’s worse than reddit… what rose colored glasses are you wearing? Huge swaths of lemmy are little better than 4chan.

“Oh, you just have to curate your communities.”

Stop. Take your superior than thou attitude and just stop. You are part of the problem.

One of my favorites is the fast inverse square solution.

It’s like Fermat’s Little theorem: meh, this is easy fuck you.

The rest of the world: what in the ever loving fuck is going on here? How in the… Jesus Christ… How did you?!? What is this black magic??? What part of your soul did you sell for this?

Sadly only the compiler will know the true value of my constexpr forLove;

Why doesn’t the program work? Because I wrote it that way. Why would you write it that way? Because I am a fucking moron, apparently.